It’s not uncommon for people in relationship to have a dispute. You find disagreements in every kind of relationship. Sometimes parents disagree in matters involving their children; children cannot agree on the game they want to play; politicians disagree about the best way to resolve the problems of the community. In every area of life you can find disagreements.
Fortunately, for many, there is structure in the relationship that provides the framework to settle the dispute. For the most part, problems can be resolved when both parties can come to the realization that the disagreement did not occur in isolation but both parties contributed to the problem. So the parents can talk about the issue involving their children; listen to each other then choose a plan of action to solve the problem.
In 1 Kings 3, we read about Solomon who was the new king. One day while he was in Gibeon, the Lord appeared to Solomon. He told Solomon to ask for anything and it will be granted. Do you know what you would say if God asked you that question? Solomon knew exactly what he wanted. He began by recalling how God showed great and faithful love to his father David. Solomon was aware of the responsibility that was before him. He was young and recognized his need for help. In verse 9 he said, “Give me an understanding heart so that I can govern your people well and know the difference between right and wrong. For who by himself is able to govern this great people of yours?”
God told him, “I will give you what you asked for! I will give you a wise and understanding heart such as no one else has had or ever will have!” Wow! That is some awesome blessing. It didn’t take long for his wise and understanding heart to be put to the test. There were two women who shared the same house. They both had young babies. One night, one of the women rolled over on her baby, and the baby died. When she realized that her baby was dead, she exchanged her baby for the living baby.
Babies are tiny, but a mother knows her baby. When the other woman awoke and tried to care for the baby, she realized that the baby was dead. When she took a closer look, she became aware that she had the wrong baby. These women had a dispute. Each claimed the living baby as her baby. The people in their community tried their best but both women were insistent that the living baby was her child.
So I gather the courts of King Solomon, was their version of the modern Supreme Court. The two women found themselves before Solomon. As each woman presented her case, the spectators were waiting to see how this problem could be resolved. They did not have the privilege to use DNA testing to connect the mother and child. So Solomon had to decide.
He probably asked the courts to be cleared to give him an opportunity to think about the matter. Without DNA testing, how can he identify the mother of the living baby? He thought for a while then asked for the disputing parties to appear before him. Again, he asked the women about the baby and just like before they each claimed to be the mother. Solomon said, “All right, bring me a sword.” Then he said, “Cut the living child in two, and give half to one woman and half to the other. One woman said, “Oh no, my lord! Give her the child—please do not kill him!” The other said, “All right, he will be neither yours nor mine; divide him between us!” Solomon said, “Do not kill the child, but give him to the woman who wants him to live, for she is his mother!”
The love of this mother was so strong that she was willing to give up her son than allow him to die. Love is powerful. In each life, there is a decision to make. Is your love powerful enough to save the figurative “baby” in the midst of the dispute? Or are you like the other woman, willing to let the “baby” die? Only you can decide if you are going to save the baby. There is power in love.